לקרוא עם ראש פתוח. כי אחרת אין לכם מה להתחיל לקרוא.
נכון, קל להגיד, אבל תתנתקו ממה שחונכתם עד היום מהמשפחה, מבית הספר, מהסביבה, מסרטי הדיסני שראיתם ומערוצי המדיה ונסו לקרוא עם ראש פתוח.
תסכימו איתו לא תסכימו איתו, כך או כך זה מאמר מעניין עם דעה שונה ממה שרובכם חונכו לחשוב ולהאמין עד היום, הבאתי לכאן את עיקר הדברים:
There is no ONE. This is the soulmate myth. There are some good Ones and some bad Ones, but there is no ONE. Anyone telling you anything else is selling you something. There are LOTS of ‘special someones’ out there for you, just ask the divorced/widowed person who’s remarried after their “soulmate” has died or moved on.
Hypergamy hates the soul-mate principle, because the soul-mate is an absolute definition, whereas hypergamy must alway test for perfection. Hypergamy asks, “Is he the ONE? Is he the ONE?” and the Soul-Mate Myth replies, “He HAS to be the the ONE, he’s your soul-mate, and there’s ONLY one of those.”
Due to this core concept and soul-mate mythology, both sexes will seek to perfect that idealization for themselves – even under the least ideal of conditions and expressions. We want to build our intimate relations into that soul-mate idealism in order to relieve the fear and solve the problem, and most times so badly that we’ll deftly ignore the warnings, abuses and consequences of having done so.
This process is why I say the Soul-Mate Myth is ridiculous – it’s psychologically much more pragmatic to construct another person to fit that ideal than it ever will be to “wait for fate to take its course.” People subscribing to the myth would rather build a soul-mate, consequences be damned. So women will attempt to Build a better Beta, or tame down an Alpha, while men will attempt to turn a whore into a housewife, or vice versa.
Dropping the Soul-Mate Myth isn’t the nihilism a lot of people might have you believe it is. If anything it will free you to have a better, healthier future relationship with someone who is genuinely important to you – a relationship based on genuine desire, mutual respect, complementary understanding of each other and love, rather than on a fear of losing your one and
only representation of contentment in this life.
In any realationship, the person with the most power, is the one who needs the other the least.
למאמר המלא ולבלוג שלו:
https://therationalmale.com/2012/10/...oul-mate-myth/
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